In our materialistic world, people continually compare themselves with those around them. This highlights our insecurities and often leads us to feel negative about ourselves and the way we live and act. We lose sight of the value of our own individuality and then feel inadequate and unsatisfied. Getting to really know yourself and appreciating your value not only increases your self-esteem it will encourage you to connect to your confident self. Who will be able to assert themselves to ask for what they need and want?
“If you put a small value on yourself you can be rest assured the world will not raise your price”
Another aspect of low self-esteem is how your internal chatterbox convinces you that you are not good enough. There is also an inner bully that has a field day with all the negative thoughts you carry in your head about yourself. So, what happens when you challenge a bully?… they back off. The bully within hates challenge, when we identify what the bully is saying and who you hear saying it the myths are broken forever.
“There will always be someone who can’t see your worth don’t let it be you”
Confident people are not brash or overpowering. They are usually calm and respectful of themselves and others. They are aware of their strengths and proud of their achievements. They can take ownership of their weaknesses without treating themselves in a harsh way. They are happy to embrace change and learn from others. When we lack confidence in ourselves, we are often very fearful of rejection and criticism. This keeps us from being honest with ourselves and others. No one is perfect and acceptance that we are not or ever will be perfect allows us to embrace the qualities we have.
“Confidence is not will they like me, confidence is I will be fine if they don’t you can’t please all the people all the time so you may as well please yourself”
When we increase our self-esteem and build our confidence, we can accept we have the right to make decisions that are right for us. Assertive behaviour enables us to act on our own best interests and to stand up for ourselves without undue anxiety. However, to find true assertiveness we need to be aware that to state our case or say no to an unreasonable request should never be delivered with aggression or passive aggression. Assertiveness is a true art that will ensure we keep the respect of others. We need to learn to deliver our message in a calm, honest, and respectful way.
“You will only ever be treated the way you allow people to treat you. If you allow it then it is, you that needs to do the changing”
The personal development workshop runs over one day from 10am to 4pm. By the end of the day, you will have an understanding of:
- What is self-esteem
- How to reclaim it
- The difference between self-esteem and confidence
- What does your confident self say?
- How to be heard and considered
- Personal development plan of action