Many young adults find it difficult to understand their feelings and emotions. They often feel frustrated and confused with adults, teachers, parents and siblings, and feel no one understands.
Parents often say, “I have no idea what is going on in my young adults’ life. Anytime I ask a question, they take my head off and accuse me of not listening, not understanding and being nosey. If I ask where they are going, or what time they will be home, I get a look that says you are driving me mad.” Don’t worry, by the law of averages they will return to you as they mature and figure out we are all flawed. Our children are far from perfect but we love every bone in their body unconditionally. As a parent, you might not always get it right, but you will be trying your best.
As our children grow into young adults, we really start to see them coming into their own. They form their own opinions, they often oppose you and they generally change as they leave their childhood behind and enter the adult world of responsibility and accountability. This can be an exciting time for them while having fun and experimenting with many aspects of adult life.
On the other hand, sometimes, this time of change can be very scary for the young adult. They may feel very alone and isolated as they sometimes feel they have no one around to listen to them and understand their challenges. Parents can often feel so worried and confused. “I only make things worse, nothing I say is right.” This is perhaps nature’s way of allowing our children to become independent from parents to allow them to separate.
Counselling helps young adults to discuss their personal experiences leading to better self-awareness and emotional wellbeing. It is vitally important that young adults talk to someone who is experienced with this age group. Some young adults are affected by poor mental health and need patience and sensitive work in order to build resilience and develop new coping skills. It will also help them make better sense of relationships, manage change and explore and give voice to difficulties arising from varying life experiences.
Nightingale’s Young Adult counsellors and psychologists have the experience, know-how and ability to connect and build trust quickly, which is essential when encouraging the young person to open emotionally, often for the first time to an adult. Many young people feel vulnerable, especially if they are having difficulties with adults and sometimes parents.
This is a very specialised area of therapy as it takes a different approach to adult therapy. The therapists work with young adults aged 16 – 25 using a variety of techniques and counselling modalities, allowing the young adult to feel safe to engage and express their emotions and concerns without judgement.
A unique aspect of our young adult counselling is that we have a few sessions with their parents before the young adult comes into the counselling process. Sometimes we find it useful to look at the family history and dynamics. Often parents need to adjust to behaviours around their young adults. The parents may not always be aware that this is the case. We know you will be doing your best, so if we can help you in turn, it helps the whole process.
Counselling helps young adults to discuss their personal experiences leading to better self-awareness and emotional wellbeing. It is vitally important that young adults talk to someone who is experienced with this age group. Some young adults are affected by poor mental health and need patience and sensitivity in order to build resilience and develop new coping skills. It will also help them make sense of relationships, manage change and explore and give voice to difficulties arising from varying life experiences.